[dagirl71]

how come man and women cant be just friends? I find this absurd (most my friends are men) but Mike says I have a distorted reality... is this true?

mind you I have gone away on vacations with some of you and think we have become friends! lol

 

[dagirl71]

some comments in other thread...

Dagirl, If a man is your friend he wants to have sex with you. My wife is nieeve about this too. Most of the woman I am friends with I would have sex with them, but I am married so I would not do that, but I still think about it. LOL When I was single all the girls that I was friends with I had sex with, even if they were married. Do a poll here and see what all the men will say. I agree with Mike.
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Disagree with you TRX700, have many girlfriends which are mainly married and do not think that way towards them since they are married and had single girlfriends which Yes could have but decided not to cause I care more about my friendship then anything else. Happened too many times in the past where once we pass that point, we felt different about each other and most of the times, we basically stop being friends. So yes, you can be friends with a girl without having sex or thinking about it. Of course there are some where you would want more then been friends but she considers you as a big brother which sucks!!
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Ahhh! YES! but you have thought about having sex with the friend.

But like you I do not do that anymore becuase I am married. It does change things and I agree with what you said.

The big brother sindrome is that your too old for her. That is why she thinks that way. LOL
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OMG what did I just start.....
I agree with you... not all guys and not all the time but the other half of the male population does and those are the one's to watch out for.
Dagirl can I be your friend?
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I agree with trx700 any friend I have that's a girl I either have slept with them or I'm trying to figure out how too. Maybe when I get a little older that will change but I don't know. Even if your a guy and you don't think that way, if your friend that is a women tried to sleep with you most likely you would let it happen. So for a husband (knowing how guys think) to have his wife always with her guy friends it is just a uncomfortable feeling.

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Ya! thats what I am trying to say.
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[xx700xx]

I've known lots of girls that say "we're just friends." Hate to break it to you but it is very rare that a guy and a girl simply just enjoy each other's company. My ex had a guy messaging her on myspace. She said they're just friends and that he has a girlfriend. After a few messages he started hitting on her, I laughed and did the "I told you so." Usually with guys there is a hidden agenda, if they're spending a lot of time with a girl they're either gay or looking to get with her. Just my opinion, sorry.

 

[Baxter]

I have female friends , lots of them. I tend to get on with the opposite sex better due to being brought up by my mother and my big sister . It's a farmer thing. Would I like to sleep with them , probably about 1%. Would I try "HELL NO!". I have found my soul mate . I wanted to marry Jill about 3 months after we started dating. Maybe slushy but she is also my best friend and someone who tends to make me smile ,when the thick stuff hits the fan.Plus she's good company and fun on a pub crawl. We both agreed that we don't have the spare time for an affair. I trust Jill and she trusts me , to the point where one of her friends she works with(Vicki) wanted to go to some shindig and couldn't find a partner for the event. Jill says I'll ask Lee and I also offered to do this.Vicki did not go to the event. Would have been good fun as they had a golf course and a late night bar. dammit!.

Mike youre being paranoid. But then again Nikki is quite a stunner.

 

[Crash21]

MOST of the time there are motives behind Man/Woman friendships. My long time girlfriend had a "friend" at work. He wanted to hang out with her and get some drinks. I had met him before and she said no way he is trying to get with her. He knows she has a boyfriend... They ended up going to get some drinks. Nothing happened but she later admitted that he was telling her how pretty she was and she could tell he wanted more. They stopped hanging out.

Hell, when I first met her she had a boyfriend and I had a girlfriend. We have now been dating over 5 years, purchased a house together and are looking to get married. But at first we were just "friends" with significant others

 

[08700xx]

OK I am starting a poll... this is interesting and is helpful since I still think it is complete crap... I grew up playing with the boys and still do at 39 why should that be any different... I can tell the difference between a guy who is a friend and a guy who "wants to be friends"... but you all are saying it can't happen EVER...

guy friend with girl = guy only wanting sex!!! really???

I wouldn’t say its as black and white as that but for the most part guys hang around girls that they would want to be with. There’s always the cool chick that likes to do the same stuff we do and we usually view that girl as one of the guys but that’s not very often. Guys are visual, we see a girl we are attracted too and that’s all we need to know but we are just smart enough to realize girls are emotional so we have to have that bond with them before they will become interested, so we hang around hoping that that time will come sooner rather than later.


Edit I should add that I would never try to sleep with a married woman and I think most guys are respectful of that but when you’re a married man and your wife is hanging out with men that doesn’t ease our mind any lol.

 

[dagirl71]

mike doesnt mind any of my friends, guys or girls...heck he is friends with most of them as well now but I had an issue with a long time customer..I wasnt any different but guess he was lonely and the weirdness began. I have sold him, his wife and brother in law cars for years...mike said this was his point... things can change because guys are guys and bam there is an issue. I was smart enough to discuss this with him but still find it hard to except.

Seriously some of my best friends (Joe, Chuck, Al, Dan and CJ) I met on the forums riding and never once did I think they looked at me as anything other than another rider or a like a sister... if they did I never noticed. I guess I am just one of those people who dont see why everyone cant get along with out any strings to it other than you enjoy each others company and enjoy the same hobby. I married the man I will love till the day I die but he doesnt enjoy everything I do and 2 years and I have yet to find some women to ride with us..(Als wife maybe this year) or that you boys will let ride with us(your time away)

 

[crwh45]

I definately didn't think of you anymore than that, you're 20 years too old for me LMFAO!!!! I have lots of gf's I haven't done stuff with, probably over half of which I never thought of having sex w/. Now w/ that said, doesn't mean they didn't want it and I just said sure hahahaha.

 

[quadmonkey700xx]

Nikki I guess I am different than most men but I have A little different take on this. I have several friends that are women that I dont want to jump in the sack with, BUT, they are Mostly women that I ride with and the rest I met because of riding. And some of these women I have to say are faster riders than I am( One who won the Blackwater). So I guess for me at least maybe it depends on how and why I know a woman
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[dagirl71]

Chuck just the thought makes me sick lol

quadmonkey I expected more guys to be like you, crwh45, nash04 and not want to jump in the sack with a gal that your friends with!

 

[Red-N-BlackXX]

Hey what bout me?

 

[08700xx]

Hey what bout me?

She knows you're lying :lol:

 

[dagirl71]

haha sorry hayden how dare I leave you out... you are a good friend too

 

[dagirl71]

Lee... one day Mike and I will come across the pond to you and Jill! I want to meet spike AND see that lab of yours!!!!!!

 

[Red-N-BlackXX]

haha sorry hayden how dare I leave you out... you are a good friend too

You damn right i am! I'm you and Mikes friend!

 

[dagirl71]

mike does ask about you and if your coming to hatfield this year to ride...we are thinking oct but still trying to work out Utah...

 

[Red-N-BlackXX]

Hells yea im coming to hatfield for sure! Don't think i can swing the Utah trip though.
Looking forward to Mike's Breakfast and your Italian Dinner!!! :hey:

 

[M_Quick]

Nikki I guess I am different than most men but I have A little different take on this. I have several friends that are women that I dont want to jump in the sack with, BUT, they are Mostly women that I ride with and the rest I met because of riding. And some of these women I have to say are faster riders than I am( One who won the Blackwater). So I guess for me at least maybe it depends on how and why I know a woman
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You think since your not interested, you could maybe, if it's not to much to ask, could you hook me up with that girl that won the Blackwater?
:haha: j/k.

 

[Pinto]

Hope yall make it October, me and a group will make it up there and I'll do some cooking for you guys and provide the beer since yall were so courteous last year!

 

[ssxr600]

i think its an age thing, when i was young i would have said it would be hard not to nail a female, but im 47 and yes i still got it, just not enough to ruin the great relationship i have with my beautiful wife.